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How Social Anxiety Can Dominate Your Life

It’s tough dealing with the outside world especially when you feel like no one understands you. The ruminating thoughts compromises your ability to meet new people. Feeling social anxiousness and the paralyzing fear of rejection from society can have negative repercussions on the mind. It may feel as if no one can say the correct words to help you conquer your anxiety – this is why social anxiety can dominate your life.

Social anxiety doesn’t discriminate

it’s sad, actually because my anxiety keeps me from enjoying things as much as I should at this age ~Amanda Seyfried

Social anxiety affects all ages. Parents may believe it’s impossible for their child to suffer from anxiety – they might say their child is too young to endure a mature emotion such as social anxiety. When I was 12 years old, I’d fake sick everyday even ditch just to avoid school. The thought of facing my peers and teachers terrified me. I wasn’t bullied a lot, but just the thought of being around people plagued my thoughts with anxiety. My mother thought I was just being a kid who wanted to stay home and goof off, but she eventually discovered it was more serious.

Eventually, I had to drop out of school since my social anxiousness was severe. I missed out on some milestones most teen girls are programmed by society to look forward to. In fact, social anxiety disorder starts at a very young age and without treatment, can worsen. If you’re a parent and notice isolating behavior from your child, don’t push them to hang out with other kids. Talk to your kid or take them to a therapist – don’t internalize their anxiety as something you did wrong as a parent (it’s not always about you).

As a young adult, social anxiety disorder impacts your dating life, employment, and social skills. Between the ages of 18-30, is supposed to be a fun time to explore the world and date around. Instead, for many young adults, social anxiety can prevent them from exploring anything. Life may seem like it’s passing and you’ll probably care less. That’s the social anxiety talking – installing fears in your mind. Online life probably feels safe for you such as chat rooms, social media, dating sites, and virtual reality games. These outlets give you the ability to be yourself or maybe someone else. Reality shows such as Catfish display how social anxiety disorder can not only hurt you but other people. On this show, people use fake identities to lure a person they like into their life.

Online life probably feels safe for you such as chat rooms, social media, dating sites, and virtual reality games. These outlets give you the ability to be yourself or maybe someone else. Reality shows such as Catfish display how social anxiety disorder can not only hurt you but other people. On this show, people use fake identities to lure a person they like into their life. Plenty of factors are to blame such as low-self esteem or mental/physical disabilities for their plots. But it all stems from the anxiety to become who they truly are.

Social anxiety interferes with health

All too frequently, anxiety crushes not only your spirit and your potential, but your ability to take care of your mind and body ~ Jonathan Davidson

Social anxiety feelings takes a lot of energy. A person suffering from anxiety can feel mentally and physically consumed. There are times I’m so worn down I don’t want to treat myself with physical activities which will benefit my overall health – it sucks. I would love to enjoy time at a public gym or group classes but once my social anxiety kicks in, I’d rather stay home and imagine myself working out (funny, but not funny). Then depression interrupts (like the ass-wipe it is) and takes over. Social anxiety and depression is a sick duo that collaborates in many people. Some friends and family might tell you it’s all in your head or just stop over thinking things, but they don’t live in your mind – if only they knew how bad you wish you weren’t socially anxious and depressed.

Obesity and high blood pressure can develop from social anxiety. Think about it, if you’re anxious all the time that means you’re suffering from a negative emotion. And if you’re an emotional eater, before you know it, you’re obese. It’s simple to become unhealthy – just sit on your ass all day and eat bad (easy, right?). It’s amazing how our minds work and how it can trick us to get so anxious and depressed that food eases these emotions (temporarily). No, I won’t lecture you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get up and work out (Trust me, I’m the last person to lecture anyone about this) This section is simply stating how our minds and bodies interact with each other.

You will be surprised how exercising/working out helps your social anxiety and depression (your endorphins will activate and you’ll feel good). One of my friends hated his body. He constantly told me how much bigger his boobs were than mine (and mine are pretty big) and how he could work at Hooters. His weight eventually provoked social anxiety, so he stayed home all the time. Now, he has a workout plan and feels confident (now, the only big boobs he plays with are his girlfriend’s).

Social anxiety steals your money

Social anxiety results from being around people who are resolutely opposed to who you are ~ Stefan Molyneux

This can be more reasons than one. Social anxiety can stifle you from having a job –  plus, treatment for social anxiety is costly. You could be so riddled with anxiety you might not have the courage to leave your house. This can create a problem for you making a living (the good news is, there are plenty online jobs). Sometimes, the anxious feelings are conceived from feeling misunderstood from people. If you think certain employers and co-workers won’t accept you, this can cause you to refrain from working. I rather have a career in writing because it allows me to work in my own environment (artist often feel this way). This might be a good thing or a bad thing – social anxiety can limit networking face-to-face or social anxiety can aid your true potential. Thankfully, more affordable options are available for therapy. But depending on your insurance provider, therapy can be costly. It’s also a good idea to find online therapy or online group chats with people who are dealing with similar issues.

I rather have a career in writing because it allows me to work in my own environment (artist often feel this way). This might be a good thing or a bad thing – social anxiety can limit networking face-to-face or social anxiety can aid your true potential. Thankfully, more affordable options are available for therapy. But depending on your insurance provider, therapy can be costly. It’s also a good idea to find online therapy or online group chats with people who are dealing with similar issues. If you’re a spiritual or religious person, church is a great place to find resources and comfort. You just gotta dig around and find what fits best.

 

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Kindle Jackson
Kindle Jackson

Kindle Jackson is a Tucson AZ native. Her Journalist piece “A Love/Hate Relationship with Tucson” was published by Tucson Weekly in 2009. Kindle is an honor graduate from Arizona State University with a B.A. in English Literature.

2 Comments

  • June 1, 2017 at 5:43 pm
    Michelle Hernandez

    Kindle…how appropriate that I read this article today. Elijah has been having some severe anxiety issues and his neurologist started him on some medication a few months ago. Today he actually has an evaluation with a psychiatrist to see if this in fact the right medicine for him and to see about some therapy as well. Thank you for putting your own issues out there and sharing them. We love you!!

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    • Kindle Jackson
      June 1, 2017 at 6:01 pm
      Kindle Jackson

      I’m so happy my article gives you comfort. That’s what I write for – to hopefully help people and let them know they’re not alone. I’m so glad Eli is getting the best treatment. And I’m happy you are helping him in every way possible. I love you guys, too.

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