24 Quotes On Borderline Personality Disorder From therapists, sufferers and loved ones.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a cluster-b personality disorder. Symptoms of BPD include, but are not limited to, fear of abandonment, a pattern of unstable relationships, distorted self-image, impulsive behavior, frequent and overwhelming mood shifts, chronic feelings of emptiness, paranoia, suicidal behavior, and dissociation. BPD is a difficult condition to treat and requires patient understanding from therapists, sufferers, and loved ones. Sharing experiences about BPD may help many people, and that’s why we put together a list of quotes from sufferers, loved ones and therapists to help shed light on this complex disorder.
Quotes From Sufferers
“What makes BPD different from any other personality disorder is that your anger and impulsiveness — acting out, kicking over a chair — only happens when you’re dealing with people you really love. If it’s somebody you don’t care about, who cares?” – Doug Ferrari
“I want more than anything in the world to just be a regular person. To be average. It’s so exhausting to fight yourself so hard every day. Some days are easier than others but I get so worn out.” – Monica Rodriguez, FB user.
“I go through swings of crushingly painful, amplified emotions and numbness, both of which constantly make me suicidal. I know people can’t handle this, but I confide in them anyway and end up getting hurt repeatedly. I think part of me is just holding on for that hope of someday attaining a small piece of normalcy.” – Jeanine Budd, FB User
With BPD my emotions are 10x amplified than an average person. When I’m mad, sad, hurt, happy my emotional regulation is 10x more amplified. Both a blessing and a curse to feel so deeply.” -Chanelle, FB User
“It’s like living in your own personal self-made hell that you can’t escape from. It trips you up on a good day and will make you question your sanity daily. You feel like an attention seeking brat when you reach out for help because you look normal on the outside.” -Kathryn Ann-Nourse, FB User
“It’s a lot like being inside a burning building and yelling for help, while the fireman outside says “What are you so upset about? Just climb over the rubble and come on out!” — Alexander L. Chapman
“It is as if my life were magically run by two electric currents: joyous positive and despairing negative —whichever is running at the moment dominates my life, floods it.” — The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
“Knowing that eventually you’ll push everyone away and you’ll be alone is tough to deal with.” -Animastarara, Reddit User
“It’s exhausting never knowing who you really are. Every day, you have to put on a face and you’re never sure if any part of you will ever really be ok. -Holdingthispose, Reddit User
Quotes From Loved Ones
“My girlfriend had BPD. It was a very difficult relationship. I loved her to death, and all I wanted to do was have a healthy relationship. I realized the more I tried to help or save her the worse things became. It was so painful for me to sit by while she harmed herself in so many ways. It broke me.” -Nick Gomez, FB User
“My son has BPD and it’s nearly killed me. I know he is hurting inside, but he’s not the only one that is hurting because of his BPD, it destroyed our family. -Susan Roberts, Facebook User
“My sister suffered a lot, but she overcome BPD and I admire and love her for it.” Roger Lent, FB User
Quotes From Therapists
“The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.”
― Michael Adzema
“To stave off the panic associated with the absence of a primary object, borderline patients frequently will impulsively engage in behaviors that numb the panic and establish contact with and control over some new object.”
― Christine Ann Lawson,
“People with BPD tend to judge themselves and others in extreme ways. They will often use excessively positive terms, idealizing or glorifying, or excessively negative terms, demonizing or devaluing themselves or others. They look at themselves with harsh and critical negative self-judgments that increase their sense of shame.” -Valerie Porr, DBT Practitioner
Quotes For Hope
“Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside — remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.”— Charles Bukowski
“I feel everything, all the time. It’s exhausting. But it also makes me passionate, which is beautiful.” -Alicia Raimundo, Healthplace
“You are not your illness. You have an individual story to tell. You have a name, a history, a personality. Staying yourself is part of the battle.” ~ Julian Seifter
“Life is like a piano; the white keys represent happiness and the black show sadness. But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music.” ~ Ehssan
“Your journey has molded you for the greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.”
– Asha Tyson
“Sometimes, being different feels a lot like being alone. But with that being said, being true to that and being true to my standards and my way of doing things in my art and my music, everything that has made me feel very different… in the end, it has made me the happiest.” – Lindsey Stirling
“It was really hard for many, many years. But I’ve learned to grow with the way I was born having BPD. I love myself now and because I have been through so much that I can also help so much. Anonymous, FB User
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a very difficult condition for the sufferer and for those in their lives. However, while putting together these quotes and experiences, it’s amazing to see people coming together wanting to help each other and improve one another’s quality of life. It’s easy for people to vilify each other, but it’s obvious how much we want to support and help each other. If you believe you or someone you know may have BPD, you can take this short DSM-5 quiz to see if you or your loved one exhibits symptoms of BPD.