6 Reasons Close-Mindedness is So Destructive

Interacting with all walks of life is a challenge if you’re close-minded. This can provoke you to only have friends who think like you (which is so damn boring). In the workplace, being close-minded can isolate you and prevent fresh ideas from your projects. Eclectic people fill society, so you’re missing out on amazingly fun weird stuff.  There are six reasons why close-mindedness is destructive to your life, relationships, and career.

1.  Get use to your imaginary friend

Most people will think you’re a jerk if you persistently press your views on them. If you’re unwilling to listen to what people say and believe, the only friend you’ll have will be imaginary (I think Benny is a good name for an imaginary friend). Ok, politics are one of those pain-in-the-ass subjects when you’re around other people. But if their views are far…and I mean very far from what you believe, don’t be a jerk. Hear all sides. Be open to why that person has those views – throw in a couple of jokes to lighten the conversation. It’s ok if you want an imaginary friend or have one (although you might want to read other articles from this site about mental health, just saying). Hey, if you like hearing yourself talk, have fun! But there’s no challenge from it.

2. Get ready to spend Valentine’s day with your hand

I dated this guy who always bashed my social views. He was a Republican, and I didn’t mind it. I date anyone I have a connection with regardless of their beliefs. But this douche wouldn’t stop offending me. I felt like I was dating Rosie O’Donnell (if she had a penis…a very small penis). The point is, no girl/guy wants their opinions shut down because you don’t agree with them. You will be single for a very long time even if you date someone who shares some of your views – everyone is different and no one is perfect (well, Chris Evans is kind of perfect but that’s another topic).

3. You’re so fired!

The last thing you want to do is make your boss angry because you don’t like their ideas. It’s ok to pitch ideas or suggest a little change to an existing idea. But a mop might be involved in your future career if you’re not open to new ideas. Co-workers may not want to work with someone who sucks at team work. Yes, be yourself no matter what, but be open-minded to suggestions. I worked with this girl who was racist as hell. She didn’t like working with minorities. Her views were very close-minded and I assume stemmed from her family. Well, my boss at the time didn’t want to deal with her mess, and she made me and other co-workers pissed (let’s just say she’s now likely taking your order at some fast food joint).

4. Dude, change the radio station for once!

Ok, I love all kinds of music. I love Metal, Hip-Hop, Jazz, and Rock (mostly Metal and Rock, sorry). But I’m courteous to my guest. If someone wants to listen to what they like, I’ll change the station for them. So don’t torture your friends with stuff you only like and don’t bash their taste (unless it’s Justin Bieber). You’ll probably lose your friends. If you just want to hear Country music and bash Hip-Hop, not only will you annoy your friends but you might come off kind of prejudice – plus, your friends might scream at you to turn that crap off!

5. Wow, I’m depressed

Yeah, it sucks being close-minded. You’ve driven everyone away (your imaginary friend hates you now, too), now you’re depressed. It’s never fun being depressed – it’s no laughing matter. But in this case, it’s preventable. Being too involved with yourself and views comes off as narcissistic which alone can be depressing. Thinking you’re always right is technically a mental illness. Maybe you were spoiled growing up or people are scared to tell you you’re wrong – by the time you’re an adult, you can’t recognize your close-mindedness. It’s normal to share your taste in music with others, give input to a project, or have a fun debate with your mate. But don’t be a tool bag to people because of difference in opinions. Close-mindedness is not worth depression.

6. You’re not alone

Don’t feel bad if you’re close-minded. We all have inner flaws that hinder us one way or another. Acknowledging you are close-minded and you wanna fix it is a huge leap in improvement.

  1. Maybe ask close friends and family what you can change about it. Try explaining how it’s hard for you to relinquish power in a situation – people can respect a person who keeps it real.
  2. Traveling is an educator and fun. If you travel around the world, you’ll instantly communicate with all types of people from many cultures. You’ll soon begin to welcome new adventures in your life.
  3. This may sound weird, but go on a date with someone you wouldn’t usually find attractive. It doesn’t have to turn romantic, but it helps you meet new friends and begin to accept others for who they are.
  4. Therapy is a great way to voice exactly how you feel without possibly causing a confrontation. If you don’t understand why you have to change your ways, express that to your therapist. Venting not only reveals your true colors it also allows you to hear yourself – maybe you won’t like what you hear.
  5. Watch a crappy movie or listen to a horrible song. I can’t stand the sound of some Country songs. But when I kept a Country station on, I discovered some songs I actually like. I hate romantic comedies (I’m probably the only girl in this world who does). But there was one romantic comedy I enjoyed because I gave it chance. So don’t knock something before you try it – unless you’ve tried it and you still hate it (I still hate Justin Bieber’s music). Never be afraid to try something new. You never know where it might take you.


  1. This is awesome Kindle, I’m not alone, I sometimes want to smack everyone! Lol But I try and remind myself to keep my mind, thoughts, and work open, possibly learning something cool from a complete stranger or having a positive impact on someone who needed you at that moment. I love you and thank you for sharing.

  2. Refreshing and witty, Kindle, two sure signs of an open mind. It seems to me that closed-mindedness (of which we’re all guilty at some point), involve a strong dose of fear mixed up with an inability to allow two or more conflicting ideas to float unresolved and welcomed in the mind. If we could just realize that when we start feeling uncomfortable, we’re probably on the road to truth, we might all break through faster. Keep on the path, friend.

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